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It’s time for me to brag about being in another book, so get a load of me in my sexy attire of choice before the boasting begins:

Here I am with the book, Best Sex Writing 2008:

The book isn’t full of erotic fiction, it’s an anthology of extremely provocative non-fiction pieces covering sex from challenging and unusual (but important and relevant) perspectives. Rachel Kramer Bussel edited the collection (and is looking for submissions for 2009).

Check out Audacia Ray’s video review of the book to get a better idea of my piece and the book. When she says “period porn” she is not talking about porn featuring people dressed up in anachronistic costumes; she’s talking about the the porn you find on BloodyTrixie and EroticRed.

For me, the best part of being included in this anthology is getting exposure to a topic that at first glance seems very “special interest” (the freedom to make and sell porn featuring menstruation) but really challenges people’s assumption that we live in a country where free speech is protected, women own their own bodies, and capitalism rules. We don’t. It’s exciting to know that more people are going to be exposed to the marginalized truth that fringe-dwelling pornographers like myself live every day.

The stand-out parts of the book in total are its depth of exploration and diversity of topics; a lot of mainstream media coverage of sex is so shallow, boring and repetitive. So much that we read and hear about sex is either a) entertainingly dismissive or b) hyper-judgmental fear-mongering. It’s usually some dumbed-down story to get ratings or clicks presented by people who really don’t know what they’re talking about. Sex is held at arm’s length and treated as something that doesn’t effect “real” life (except in a predatory way) or Matters of Serious Consequence.

I love the idea of people being shown by this book that THEY’VE BEEN MISSING OUT on fascinating, puzzling, and complex stories of personal and political import. This book is loaded with surprises and challenges while maintaining its readability. Each piece’s tone and subject is so different from the others that it makes me feel giddy hoping people will realize they’ve been gypped by not being told more stories like these before. The contents of Best Sex Writing 2008 show the field of sex journalism’s enormous scope in a way that makes it impossible to dismiss as fluff.

I’M HOLDING A DRAWING AT THE END OF MARCH TO WIN AUTOGRAPHED COPIES OF BEST SEX WRITING 2008:

Who can enter:
Anyone with an active membership to TastyTrixie.com, TrixiesHouseboy.com, DeliaCD.com or SpyOnUs.com during between today (February 28th) and March 31st is eligible.

How to enter:
Email me with your username and mailing address stating you want to be in the drawing. I don’t want to automatically enter everyone with a membership since some people may not even want the prize or may not have a safe address to receive parcels from webwhores.

How many:
If more than one hundred (100) members email me to be in the drawing, I will draw for a second book. If more than 200 members email, I’ll draw three (and so on). That way people will at least have a 1/100 chance (or better) of winning no matter how many new people join our sites.

Watch the drawing:
Tuesday, April 1st at 4 PM Pacific Time on our spycams and in our members-only chatroom.

I feel like winter is over.

Whenever my sister’s dog (a border collie) comes over, he always pops our dog’s inflatable round things with his long teeth. Here’s one of the punctured holiday remnants now wilting in the sun.

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I have so much blogging I want to do, but instead of writing about anything important I’ve been soothing myself with trivia. Here are some entries I’ve made on other blogs that you may have missed:

Bad Cramps

Babes with (anal) Beads

A few posts on Trixie Blows

And of course, the always mundane Daily Trixie.

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More tomorrow?

My favorite Christmas present was having Juno come to our town’s theatre and getting to watch it with Kris, and seeing Diablo Cody win an Oscar last night for writing Juno was like an early birthday present.

Here’s a video of Kris and I at the movies GUSHING over Diablo:

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For me, Diablo represents the very best of what the blogosphere and web voyeurism/exhibitionism offer: the opportunity to watch another human’s story unfold and experience success along the way. To develop high hopes for someone and cheer for them when things go well. To recognize someone’s talent, observe that recognition snowballing, and see her REWARDED for it. It’s very fulfilling, and not in a vicarious I-can-now-imagine-it-happening-to-me way, but just in the basic sense of caring about someone and being extremely happy for her.

Of course, she *is* also a symbol to me, too (on top of just being an awesome human); seeing a woman on that stage who has stripped and worked the peeps doing hardcore masturbation shows for money now getting respect for her non-sex work while everyone knows about her stint in sex work is Pretty Fucking Cool.

Anyway, we have (one of) her shining moment(s) recorded on our DVR now and have watched it about 35 times in the past 23 hours; I have cried every single time. And can I just say that she looked fucking fabulous, too?

Sorry I haven’t posted anything the past few days; all you’ve missed is a giant broiling vat of premenstrual syndrome symptoms. It’s been almost seven weeks since my last period started. I’m guessing I probably didn’t ovulate this cycle for whatever reason. And all of the pregnancy tests are negative. I mentioned I have really horrid PMS, too, right?

If you want to see a little of what my days have been like check out my Daily Trixie blog (imports all of my twitter posts from the previous day). I personally thinks it’s quite readable, but that might just be my narcissism speaking.

I’ve got my second show of the day coming up in half an hour. My face is tear-stained because of afore-mentioned hormonal problems. Nothing to worry about, it’s just what’s going on for me.

Going to pick a big fucking dildo to use because those skinny ones do NOT cut it when I’m in a mood like this one. And if anyone in the chatroom prods me for DEEP penetration I will scream bloody murder. Look up “G-spot” and have your eyes opened, ye Philistines.

Whenever I feel badly for our members watching our spycams seeing us having awkward lazy sex, I can soothe myself by simply watch this video of Gene Simmons and a bored blonde in flip-flops going through the motions of sexual intercourse.

Do celebrities not know how to fuck? I’d hate to see how bad the sex is that they have when they’re OFF camera.

Good job on the condom and the candles, though. For a moment when he was unwrapping the rubber I thought maybe he was actually taking out money and counting it for her; losing that glimmer of hope was more disappointing to me than seeing the average-sized penis (which wasn’t a big surprise given the overcompensation with the tongue).

I have a feeling I’m going to regret posting these little video rants with my thoughts and reactions to the whole “Letters from Working Girls” debate. And you may very well regret listening to them; honestly, they probably won’t make sense to you unless you read the back story here:

*Audacia Ray’s reaction (and discussion in comments) to Letters from Working Girls

*The discussion on Bound, Not Gagged

*The Letters Collector herself on the debate (a nice try, but still didn’t settle my stomach)

Can I just apologize in advance for being a sputtering asshole? Oh, and I realize by posting this I’m probably just driving my own little slice of traffic to her; in spite of how my blustering sounds, that’s more than fine with me. Also, I am NOT speaking for anybody or on the behalf of anybody but myself.

You can DOWNLOAD MY WHOLE (.14 GB) RANT FOR YOUR IPOD or watch smaller chunks of it right here (and I promise the next vlog or audio post I make will NOT be so long & burbling):

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Oh, you know how I said I couldn’t find a picture of Susannah Breslin? I *did* find a video of her:

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She reminds me of Selma Blair (hot!) which makes me even MORE interested in finding out exactly what type of sex work I can hire her to perform. Watching her talk about a book of short stories she wrote and hearing her blur the line between truth and fiction to the point where I can’t tell if the book is, indeed, short (fictional) STORIES she wrote about “aberrants” like “midget porn stars” OR nonfictional essays about real people. Does anyone know? The promo piece reinforces my sense of her as someone who’s less interested in being true to people’s real stories in the sex industry and more interested in harnessing our curiosity about them to market entertaining tales of our perceived deviance for her own gain. Again, I don’t so much mind someone exploiting a resource (I’m not someone who thinks there’s no room in the world for pimps) as I mind someone bullshitting everyone about that being their primary objective.

And hey, I don’t want to make it sound like my own hands are clean; I’ve used a lot of the same tactics (or would if I could unclutter my mind long enough to APPLY the techniques of efficient exploitation), just not very well. So go on, everybody! GET that publicity! GET that traffic!! USE WHAT YOU’RE GIVEN!!! Wankers send you material? THAT IS BLOG FODDER! Someone wants to give you content without getting anything in return except the pleasure of putting it before an audience? TAKE it and USE it! Let Susannah Breslin be your guide!

Oh, and I wouldn’t argue with her about Susie Bright being a sex worker. The quickest reason I can give (which still probably doesn’t make sense)? She has confessed to her own personal fantasies that are so taboo as to be considered obscene by our government just to talk about them. Maybe Breslin has, too, though and I’m just not familiar enough with her (sex?) work to know.

Note: with the amount of time and energy I’ve wasted on this compared to the MAJOR stuff I ignore in my blog, you might think engaging in this little brouhaha is somehow more important to me than other things; it’s not. It’s just one of the few “discussions” I’ve been involved in lately and enjoyed, probably because it was mostly smart women doing the discussing (and yeah, Breslin is one of those women, too).

So The Bi Apple didn’t win last night, but we had sex so that cushioned the blow (okay, having sex last night had nothing to do with the awards, but I’m trying to make meaningless connections here so bear with me).

On another positive side of groundbreaking, one of the other cool things about being in that movie is that it featured real-life couples like us (and my partner just happened to also come in handy for a guy-guy scene in addition to the one we did together . I feel like pointing out that we met each other over six years ago; in September we’ll have been living together for that many years. Since I was ranting about conservative attitudes towards sexuality, I feel like pointing out that as more-than-BIsexuals, as pornographers, as people with spycams, and as people who sometimes have sex with other people we have, I think, an enviably solid relationship. On top of all of those things that conservative people would consider threats to a healthy relationship, my partner doesn’t identify as the same gender she presented as when I met him. Suck on that! And yes, I’m messing with her pronouns on purpose.

The funny part is that I feel like our relationship IS pretty conservative; I don’t feel like our lives are wild and crazy at all. If all of those alternative-lifestyle-sounding labels fell off of us or were invisible to people, I think the the average conservative couple would look at us as shining examples of what a long-term relationship (or marriage, even though we’re not) should be. But happier.

I feel like we have all of the best parts of an old-fashioned relationship; we run our own little business together and have probably spent MAYBE 30 nights apart from each other TOPS since we’ve been living together. It’s not that we don’t like spending time alone (we do that too), but we are pretty tight when the end of the day rolls around. I’m not saying our relationship has been without challenges, just that the assumptions many people would make about the health of our relationship based on our sexual preferences, gender identities, and work are probably a lot different from the reality (the reality being that we have the best, most normal, and healthiest relationship of almost every couple I know).

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At the moment I am in the evil throes of PMS, so if you hear me swearing even more than usual on cam, see me looking even sloppier than usual, or notice me ripping out my hair DON’T WORRY; it will pass.

Reminder: if you miss reading the more mundane details of my daily life, you can stay up-to-the-minute with me by following my twitter OR check the daily rundown of my tweets on DailyTrixie.

I’m keeping my fingers crossed that the movie we were in, Audacia Ray’s “The Bi Apple”, will take home the GayVN award for “Best Bisexual Video”. How cool would it be for me, a person who identifies as a woman and endowed with a vagina, to be able to boast that I was in a porno that won a GAY porn award? AWESOME!

Still, it’s crazy that this movie (which, if you HAVE to label it as catering to either a “gay” or a “straight” audience is OBVIOUSLY better marketed towards consumers in the straight marketplace than the gay market) is being recognized at GayVN but wasn’t at AVN. If I remember correctly, Dacia said AVN got rid of their “bi” category; right now I can’t find any of her many posts about this matter and bisexuality in the porn industry so I can’t vouch for that detail. Anyway, The Bi Apple at Gayvn is a reminder of the bizarre standards in our society (that the porn industry REFLECTS, but I don’t think CREATES) that male bisexuality is rarely acknowledged as common, normal or even possible; most people still subscribe to the belief that men are either straight OR they’re gay with absolutely no in-between. That attitude flies so directly in the face of common sense, plenty of research and everything that is readily observable about male sexuality that you can’t deny we must have a MASSIVE agenda in suppressing the truth and perpetuating homophobia to the point where we’d rather sound totally insane in the membrane that admit most guys are wired to get off on both cock AND pussy.

I just read Augusten Burrough’s Sellevision and one of the FUNNIEST things about it was his fantasy portrayal of the porn industry as an open, bi-sexy, anything-goes atmosphere which it absolutely is not. His gay male protagonist can’t get a straight job anymore so he decides to try porn “acting”; when Max tours the studio it’s described as one that makes BOTH gay porn and straight porn, and has performers of all orientations lounging around ready to fuck both men and women; there’s the star Trixie Thunderpussy (no relation) and the male fluffer, Shaun. Max does his impromptu screen test with Rocky right on the set of “Pizza Parlor Pussy”! If only that kind of shit really happened! It was the most naive, idealized, unreal things I’ve ever read coming from such a jaded author and just goes to show how little people, even sexually sophisticated people, know about the porn industry. The porn industry is crazily segregated and extremely UNcomfortable with natural variations in human sexuality.

My impression of a lot of men in the porn industry is that they fancy themselves reinforcers of decency and “standards”. They all think that they know what All Men Want, they all think they know what sells (if they haven’t tried it or don’t like it then it can’t POSSIBLY be marketable). They are very intent on maintaining their perceived boundaries between false dichotomies like bad and good, gay and straight, fat and sexy, fetish and non-fetish, hairy and clean, women and men, old and young. Blurred lines horrify them and the only stuff they’ll accept that pushes outside of “normal” is extreme hardcore performed on women. The only arena where they seem interested as a group in challenging accepted standards is on women’s physical and human limits. Okay, we’ve established women can take two cocks in the ass . . . how about expanding that asshole to two cocks, a fist, a frozen turkey and a barbie doll? And now that we’ve found that unilaterally referring to women as either sluts or whores or both is easy AND effective how about we really push the envelope by calling them cum-dumpsters and human toilets more often? YEAH! This is really NEW and CUTTING EDGE!

We should all think it’s weird and wacky that the more we are able to know about sex and human behavior, the more restrictive and willfully stupid we’ve become, and the more feminism progresses, the more porn (along with all other media) seeks to put us back in our traditional places. It seems obvious we’re in denial and trying our hardest as a group to maintain norms that should have been blown to smithereens. As individuals I think we really need to call bullshit on each other and question our motivation for being so rigidly resistant to acknowledging basic human truths, like, ERECT PENISES MAKE PEOPLE HORNY. Duh.

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Does it seem as though I just went off on a tangent, switching from bisexual porn to feminism? I wish I had the time and the brain to do a better job of connecting the dots, but it does all have to do with gender to the point where sometimes I wonder if we’re afraid that if men started openly acknowledging how much they want to suck cock that we wouldn’t know what women are good for anymore.

Note: I do not think porn featuring women in submissive or even degrading roles is intrinsically evil or “bad” or harmful, nor do I think people should automatically feel guilty for getting off on that; my problem is with the PREVALENCE and thoughtlessness of that type of porn to the relative exclusion of other (and often healthier/more “normal”) scenarios, and the ease with which people in the industry accept it contrasted with their disdain for other types of scenes.

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Anyway, I hope The Bi Apple wins; I’m going to be watching Dacia’s twitter like a hawk to see the outcome.

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