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Archive for April, 2008

Here’s the deal; I’m super tired, but feel like I can’t let the week end without posting an entry here. Tons of blog entries in draft form that I can’t seem to finish for one reason or another, so checking-in will have to do for now.

The week of my birthday (March 17th) I was working on aging and getting into a huge confrontation with my mom. The emotional fallout from that continues to plague me. It’s nothing tragic or life-threatening, just cause for introspection and worry over how to apologize (if I even should) and if so, for which part. It’s more complicated than that (while also being very pedestrian), but I’ll leave it at that.

End of March, as you know, we discovered yet again that we’re not pregnant . . . another non-life-threatening emotional drain.

April: have been working on many geeky projects to boost our income; site redesigns, etc. The only part of that we’ve actually finished is the members-only redesign of Delia’s site, but it did suck up a lot of time and energy.

In general I’ve been leaning at a noticeable slant towards the asshole-end of my personality spectrum so this week I’ve done a few things to help me straighten up and fly right; we took almost a whole day off, yesterday I got a massage, and we’ve had a couple of outings involving strolling through town, walking the dog at dusk, and breathing fresh air.

I believe my main problem is hormonal; the longer I am off the pill, the more monstrous I feel and act. Of course, it could be the circumstances that are getting to me, but I honestly don’t think that’s the biggest part of the problem; I think my problem is chemical. Fortunately there are a lot of things I can do to help myself feel better: exercise, eat better, listen to music, stretch, get massage, go outside, decide how I want to feel and act and make that my real work every day, etc. Unfortunately? I’m not very disciplined with the food and exercise and really just want to be able to WORK-work without worrying about taking care of myself. It’s ridiculous because I have so much freedom and flexibility, yet I can’t seem to keep things in balance. I’m good at allowing myself plenty of time to daydream and as much sleep as I need, but I want to be better at regularly giving myself therapeutic physical pleasure: dancing, massage, breathing, stretching, crying, etc. Yeah, sex is in there too, but the other stuff is what I’m needing most, am most apt to neglect, and is most likely to lead to fucking when I get them in adequate quantities with regularity.

So. Long story short is that I’ve been having a bit of a hard time, and that I’d like to hold that craziness at arm’s length because it really does seem alien to me, not because it’s unfamiliar but because, from a rational perspective (and having been in this territory many times in my life), I just don’t think these are my organic struggles — I feel like they’re thrust on me by the exaggerating effects of hormone fluctuations. It’s like I can’t even BELIEVE what I’m feeling except when I’m in the tightest grip of feeling shitty. I really believe I’m a happy person, and it frustrates me that something sometimes seems to be getting in the way of me FEELING and ACTING happy.

I’m not saying that deep inside me there’s a bubbly cheerleader sort of happy person just waiting to get out, but I *am* a grateful, overjoyed-by-small-things and delighted-by-life happy person. I’m just depressed sometimes, too.

So. I’m not posting this to solicit pity or concern, just letting people know part of what’s been going on with me. In the grand scheme of things it’s not a big deal, not even to me, but I know a lot of people go through the same kinds of things and can relate. I’m working on it, I’m hopeful, and I don’t want anyone to have the impression all has been a storm cloud of ugliness lately in my life when that’s totally untrue. Today was like magic, in fact, and there have been buttloads of bright spots over the past month. It’s just that a lot of life has been annoyingly peppered with little flecks of shit, know what I mean? It’s like having the perfect mocha with what seems to be shavings of gorgeous chocolate, but after you take a sip you discover that those are actually grated remains of the petrified brains of Mad Cow Disease victims.

Tonight I’m taking the small stack of books I bought second-hand today and taking them to the sleeping bag installed on the couch. Alone, off cam. Two Octavia Butlers, some Marion Zimmer Bradley, Bee Season, and a couple of other titles. I haven’t decided which one will be my date tonight. Maybe all night. Or maybe just for an hour . . . we’ll see.

I need a massage, a spirit guide and emotional healing. Or maybe just to go back on the pill, but in lieu of that the others would do. Or maybe just the massage, fresh air, vigorous exercise and clean food (only one of which I have the discipline to choose regularly, and that one requires money).

I could have blogged all night . . . I could have blogged all night . . . but instead I’ll read a book. Maybe I’ll find a good cry. In lieu of a massage?

Me, talking about our most recent trip to Powell’s bookstore in Portland and how next time? We might do something else.

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